Win Life with Body Language and Dress Code Part 1
How to Influence Others with Your Body Language and Dressing
Within
5 - 7 seconds of meeting you for the first time, people make the decision to
like or not like you.
Hasn't
it ever happened to you? For example, you meet someone for the first time and
it’s instant dislike. You tell your friends, “I don’t know why but I just don’t
like him!”
Apart from noticing your gender, race, height,
weight and general attractiveness, one other thing people can tell about you in
about five to thirty seconds is whether you’re confident or not.
Most
people appreciate and are drawn to confidence. Who doesn't like a confident,
self-assured person? Take note, I’m not talking about a bossy, arrogant loudmouth.
I’m referring to someone who has that inner air of assuredness. Someone who
believes in him or herself. People who don’t need anyone’s approval and
permission to fight for the goals they believe in.
As I
mentioned earlier, we are attracted to confidence. But, not only are we
attracted, we’re also influenced by
confidence.
For
example, by acting and looking confident, you can make others like you. You can
even make others trust you.
So,
remember this truth: people are influenced by what they see. Or, in a much
larger sense, people are influenced by what they perceive. Perceive because your smell too can either draw others to
you or chase them away forever.
At
every moment, especially when you’re meeting someone for the first time,
remember that you’re giving off a vibe.
Go/No-Go.
Red/Yellow/Green.
You
are communicating something to the other person, whether you’re doing it
deliberately or accidentally.
When
you’re talking with someone, for example, you are communicating verbally and, at
the same time, non-verbally.
About
55 - 60% of human communication is non-verbal.
What
is non-verbal communication? It’s a way of communicating with someone else
without words. For example, you can communicate with others through your body
language.
Others
ways you can communicate non-verbally:
§ Dress code
§ Facial expressions
§ Hairstyles
§ Smells
Let’s
say, for whatever reason, you want someone else to like you. You also want to
appear confident to that someone else.
You
want to influence the way that that someone else sees or perceives you.
Aside
from telling the person directly, “See, I want you to like me. I want you to
trust me,” how do you get the result you desire?
Two
things…
Your
body language and your clothing (the non-verbal part of your communication)
One
important aspect of body language is eye contact.
Looking
into someone else’s eyes about 60 - 70% of the time builds a strong rapport
with the person. But you have to be careful with how you use eye contact. Your
gaze should move between the other person’s eyes and mouth. Not past the face
and definitely not down to the body!
The
length of time you gaze at the other person’s face is also important. Eye
contact should not be too long; otherwise it would seem you’re staring. On the
other hand, it shouldn’t be too short; otherwise you would look unreliable and
untrustworthy.
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